With EFT tapping, we first address the challenging emotions or limiting belief systems that are holding us back from what we’d like to achieve.
If you’re highly sensitive or an empath, boundaries may be difficult for you to implement in your work or relationships.
Highly sensitive people (HSPs) and empaths often need more downtime than others. This may look like taking space from people or events and instead resting, meditating, or another activity or practice to recharge and reconnect with yourself.
We know that we need time alone to rest and recharge, but we may feel guilty saying no to someone or worried how it may impact our relationship with the person we are setting a boundary with.
If you’re new to setting boundaries, it is important to first get clear on your energetic limits and what you can and cannot tolerate.
Journaling is a great way to tune in and figure out what your needs and limits are. Think about a past event and how it played out. How did you feel emotionally, mentally, and physically? Did you speak up for yourself about what you needed? This will guide your tapping process.
Here is an example to tap on fear and guilt of setting a boundary:
First, take a few slow, deep breaths.
Determine with your number on the emotional intensity scale before tapping:
0 = calm 10 = overwhelmed with fear or guilt
Starting at the karate chop point (tapping on the side of the hand underneath the pinky), say out loud:
“Even though I feel too scared to set a boundary, I deeply and completely, love and accept myself.”
“Even though I’m worried I won’t be respected for setting a boundary, I would still love to love and accept myself as I am.”
“Even though I feel guilty saying no when someone asks me to do something, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Top of head:
I’m worried about setting a boundary
I’m afraid my boundary won’t be respected
Side of the eye:
I’m scared to speak up for myself
Under the eye:
My throat feels tense and constricted
Under the nose:
I’m afraid to say no
I’m worried I won’t be like or accepted anymore
I feel guilty saying no
Under the arm:
I’m afraid I’ll be abandoned by my loved ones
I’m worried our relationship will change for the worse
Side of the hand:
I feel guilty letting others down
Keep tapping until the fear or guilt lessens. Remember, the emotional intensity can go up (the number we intuitively choose before and after tapping) before it comes down. That means it’s working! Keep tapping until you feel calmer. This can be for 10-15 minutes.
Deeper issues and memories can come to the surface with this practice of tapping.
If this happens, make a note of what came up in your journal and schedule a session with a therapist or practitioner to process these challenging emotions in a safe space with support and compassion.
Are you ready to address your emotions and learn how to set boundaries with confidence and ease?
Register for my workshop Build Better Boundaries happening on Sunday, September 12th at 12:00 pm eastern!
Questions about the workshop? Email me [email protected] and I’d be happy to share more!